Norwalk mom feared for daughter walking to school past sex offenders' homes
Jan 27
2012
Jayden Haynes is now riding the bus to Pleasant Elementary.
For more than a month, the third-grader was walking to school past one to four residences where registered sex offenders live. Haynes, her mother and two older siblings had to move near Main Street School at the end of November because of a domestic violence situation.
Haynes, 9, said it made her feel "weird" and little scared knowing that so many sex offenders live where she was walking.
"It scares the daylights out of me," her mother added. "Just in her walk, she had to pass four of these (residences)."
Last year, Haynes attended Maplehurst Elementary and rode the bus.
The girl's mother, Stacy Bolding, addressed the situation with Norwalk City Schools at the January school board meeting. Superintendent Dennis Doughty told the mother to call him so they could address the situation.
Bolding, who has been disabled for the past three years, said the pain she experiences keeps her from walking her daughter to Pleasant. She has three children in the school district, two of whom who attend Norwalk Middle School (NMS).
"Some days I can't get out of bed," she told the board. "I have to take 36 pills a day just to function."
Haynes couldn't walk home with any of her classmates because she said they go a different way home than she does.
"When the really cold weather came in, she said, 'Mom, I can't feel my lips since I got to school.' ... That was with a scarf on," Bolding said.
Busing policies
Haynes earlier couldn't be bused because of where her family lives.
Elementary students in Norwalk City Schools who live 9/10 mile or more from their school can ride the bus.
"We use board policy for our measurement," Doughty said.
A total of 1,257 elementary students are eligible to ride the bus, according to current district statistics. There are 292 students at Pleasant who qualify.
Bolding's research and Doughty's differed on how many registered sex offenders live near Bolding. She said there are seven within a half-mile radius and 19 sex offenders live within one mile of her home. Doughty said he determined one sex offender lived where Haynes was walking.
"She walks to the nearest bus stop (now)," Doughty said.
The superintendent declined to directly address how the district recalculated Bolding's situation so her daughter can ride the bus.
"We can't control what's in the community," Doughty said, referring to sex offenders.
Walking to school
Before the district determined Bolding's daughter was eligible to ride the bus, Bolding had worked out a situation in which Haynes would walk with someone to Pleasant.
In the mornings, Bolding's friend, Ed Williams, who lives nearby, would walk Haynes to Pleasant.
"The reason I do it is because I was a victim (of sex abuse). ... I know what it's like to be a victim as a child," Williams said. "I don't want to see any child go through that."
His brother, whom he declined to name, is a convicted sex offender.
"He's on the run. He lives in Youngstown," Williams said about his brother.
In the afternoons, it was one of Haynes' brothers' turn to make sure the girl got walked home safely.
Bolding said that meant her son would ride the bus home from NMS, get a quick snack and walk his sister home from Pleasant.
Haynes said she felt safe knowing Williams and her brother would walk with her.
Before the situation was resolved, Bolding spoke with Doughty and Dustin Brown, director of support services.
About a possible busing exemption, Brown told Bolding if he did it for one student, he'd have to do it for all, she said.
"Mr. Doughty says he understands why he (Brown) says that," Bolding said.
"(Brown) felt for me because he's a parent at the schools, but his hands were tied because if he bent the rules for one students, he'd have to do it for all," she said.
Regardless, Bolding said she's relieved that her daughter isn't walking to school any more.
"She's happy," the mother said.

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06:18 PM
Kelly says
I hope every other parent in her neighborhood now insists on busing for their children too.05:57 PM
Gdusty86 says
Stop attacking this woman you judgmental people ! Her reputation is not in question ,preach your catholic faith and principles and keep throwing your stones ,remove the log from your own eyes .That's the problem with small towns buisy bodies and know it alls ,comment on the issue .12:50 PM
All taken says
If her reputation isn't in question than why does the article tell you about her!!! Why did SHE need to tell the paper that she was in a domestic relationship, taking pills etc......?????? Why didn't she just stick to her daughter being cold and walking to school, oh I mean walking by sex offender's homes??01:26 PM
All taken says
I know this family also and the mom is a pill popping drunk and she was also part of the reason of domestic violence with her past couple relationships, and for those of you that know her don't try to lie and cover it up!! She also lets her kids run around town by themselves. The kids so far are well behaved but they do run around or ride bikes around town. So what is the difference if they are going to the park, a friends house or walking to school. I am sure they pass many sex offenders houses when they are out playing. If she didn't want her daughter walking to school she should have moved in an area where the bus run's. Plain and simple!!!!10:39 AM
SimpleEnough says
Watch, now her home will be broken into by one of the many junkies in Heroin county because it mentions she takes 36 pills a day, they will think they are all narcotics........you just watch and see.01:28 PM
All taken says
They are narcotics she is taking and trust me she also loves her alcohol!!! Most of her friends are junkies so I don't think we have to worry.She will share!05:41 PM
SimpleEnough says
Thanksfor the insight.03:05 PM
swiss family says
I have to say that I am shocked and saddened by most of the reactions by the usually informed bloggers.I think this time, you really missed the mark, for the most part.First off.. it is public record to see the lists of sexual predators in your area.. to the people that believe that there are a "few" of them out there, you are purely in denial.. check the sites for yourself, it is easy to do, and you will find that almost every street in town at least, has at least 2 sexual predators on it. Sure they may not be rapists, yet.. but isn't it your job to protect not only your children, but all children???I think that without a doubt, there are many, parents who are actually a part of the problem, and NOT a part of the solution without trying to be.. How many Parents out there insist that your cchild give Aunt so and so, or Uncle so and so, a kiss or hug, or sit on their lap when they see them once a year?? don't you realize that to your child, those people ARE STRANGERS ???yet you tell them to stay away from strangers?? do you not think you are confusing them??? then you buy them a really nice "hoodie" or jacket, and have their name embroidered on thew back of it?? don't you realize that usually strangers do NOT know their name?? and so if a predator wants to get them, usually the child will trust someone , with a good enough story , especially if the predator knows their name???
I have looked up and counted the predators in the neighborhoods and it is shocking.. you are right, most are not rapists, but at the very least, they have shown that they have used extremely bad judgement, concerning their sexual organs, that is why they are classified as they are, but would you want one of them to inappropriately expose themselves in front of your child???it is a crime, and trust me, it will change that child's life from that moment on
I think if we really want to protect our kids, we need to make good use of the Police agencies and the School systems in our community.. I think that we need to have at the very least one bulletin board in each school, that tells the kids and warns the kids who, and where these perverts live..how can they be safe , if they walk past them at least twice a day, and are not aware that they have already been convicted of something so serious as a sexual crime..I have also traced the main routes coming away from the current schools, and have seen how many sexual offenders are on the Main routes that the kids walk home on.. it is alarming to say the least..I am NOT sure that they are living on these main routes to see the kids, is a mere coincidence.. it is probably by design, they sit out on their porches and lawn chairs daily in good weather to see the kids, and say "hi" and try to establish a position of trust.. how is it safe , for us NOT to inform the kids of the people to keep far away from???
I will not even comment on the people who try to "blame" the kids for dressing badly, as if because they want to be fashionable, and "current" with the trends, that they somehow deserve whatever they get.. that is insane...I believe that Knowledge is power.. if we really want to empower our kids and we really want to end the cycle and destruction that sexual crimes creates, we need to be very specific with the kids, tell them to be cautious around nearly anyone that they do not know, and give them the knowledge of telling them exactly where previously convicted sexual offenders live, and show pictures of who they are, to them to try top keep them safe and innocent.. in my opinion.
08:30 AM
truckin says
swiss you have gotten wayyy too riled up about this. Alot of so called sex predators except the label as a plea bargain for another crime which had nothing to do with sex. the mom just wants little precise to ride the bus. As far as private parts? I personally have raised my children NOT to be so shocked at nudism, boobies or weenies. On a cruise to St Thomas, they have seen/walked thru a nude beach. and many of children were there nude. Are other cultures and beliefs WRONG? and only your views Right? Everyone has there own ways of protecting there children and my wife and i feel openness, and talking about, makes things not become so taboo. Then the "shock" is not a big deal. That's all i am going to say about that. and Our streets maybe riddled with so called listing, But I feel i live in Mayberry. I do not look for trouble and i don't seem to find it. Do i need to lock my car/house doors? sure, but i do not live in this little town which basically offers very little, just so i "need" to feel scared and always cuddling my children.. I DO NOT watch my children every waking minute they are playing outside... Call the services, Swiss feels i am a bad parent. I do have to say after years of living in another state and larger communities,, and moving back. I have NEVER seen so many skitsofrantic's in my life. It's like people have nothing to do around here but drum up paranoid thoughts. I refuse to live like that. and feel sorry for ones who do.11:23 AM
-rebel says
@ truckin - I would never call you a bad parent for taking your kids on kinky vacations aboard perverted cruise lines. You certainly know how to feed your children with lifetime memories. No one could ever forget the special trips to boobies and weenie land! I don’t think your views are any more taboo than going to Disney World with all the fairies and pansy gardens.11:07 AM
swiss family says
I am glad that you enjoy the comfort of thought that come from living within a smaller community compared top a much bigger city.... I also hope that you do not get too lax in your feeling of being sheltered and protected that you mistakenly let your guard down too fast.. You are reading in the local newspaper about all of the heroin dealings going on , on a daily basis aren't you??? plus how many recent murder cases have we had within our small communities within that past couple of years??? Sure the bigger cities still have us beat.. Thank God..,But there is plenty of crime right here in as you say "Mayberry"and each day and each week it gets worse.. Especially when we have our best judges right here in Mayberry , who refuse to see these drug dealers as being criminals, and release them back out to the streets.AS far as your open attitude with your children about "boobies" and "weenies" and nude beaches, First off, I am not too sure that childrens protective services wouls also see your free style thinking as proper and what is best for a child, and there is a big difference between seeing "boobies and weenies" on a nude beach, and having a pervert expose themselves to any person , especially a child, with the intent being to shock and confront the innocence of another... It is like comparing nudity, which can be seen in many art museums in many forms, and watching porn... same body parts, but different intent.....So you are correct that we enjoy the small town atmosphere of feeling safe and secure, but the quickest way to be harmed by that thinking is to pretend that there are no criminals around us, and nothing bad could ever happen here.. the reality is that there are plenty of potentially harmful things here as well, and you know that too, otherwise you would not lock your doors, as you say you do .. right????
03:44 PM
Kottage Kat says
@b Swiss : ( : ( : (02:12 PM
OhioFreebyrd says
I know this family, and the mother has been through a hell of alot. She has to deal with excruciating pain on a daily basis, and at least this is one less thing she has to worry about. Both of her girls and her son are all very nice, well behaved children. I love you guys, and I'm always here if you need me 24/7/365.11:55 AM
RUKidding says
Here's my question...I've seen the way most 9 year old girls are dressing way too old for their age these days. While mom is worried about who she's walking past...how is she dressing? Is she even dressed appropriately in the first place? If she was there's a good chance the cold wouldn't be such an issue. Especially with the weather that we've been having lately. If she's going to school wearing jeans, a t-shirt and hoodie along with a good winter jacket then the cold really shouldn't be so much of a problem. If she's going to school wearing a skirt that's entirely too short for her age though, that explains why she can't feel her lips when she goes to school.05:02 PM
geraldha says
RUkiddin, I never post on here, but your comment is the dummest thing I have ever read. Are you one of these aholes who belive that because of what one is wearing she deserves what she gets? In these days with all the pervs out there you cannot be safe enough. if this little girl would dress in a suit of armour would that make her any safer? I have a daughter and I will go to the bowels off hell to protect her from anything and anyone. again your a moron10:26 AM
what the eff says
raised in norwalk....from 1965 to 1971...had to walk to league street school to catch a bus to pleasant st school...1.5 miles...cold freezing...no 2hr delays...and...nobody cared if we were cold...if we missed the bus at league...we walked to pleasant..after that ...if we missed...we walked to the jr high..no body died...no one froze to death...no frost bite cases..some of this coddling crap for the young kids keeps them as whimps..some times i think the best education is the ol school of hard knocks..i know i wasnt alone...we all walked..and by the way...we had pervs in town then too..11:17 AM
Blacktigress says
And the public had other ways of dealing with the perv's back then, and it seemed to work a lot better than todays judicial system. Todays laws are ridiculous, this 'tolerance' crap has ruined our country.10:05 AM
lugnut2511 says
Well let's be honest here, there are many sex offenders classified for that for so many reason, that doesnt mean they raped someone, thats doesnt mean the molested someone. I wonder what she does in the summer time when the daughters out playing in the neighborhood? THis is becoming more and more popular, and the problem isnt going to go away. Of course we need to protect our children im all for that, but dont be to hasty to judge someone if you dont have the complete facts on their case.10:16 AM
-rebel says
@ lugnuts - What makes you think people are judging others without knowing facts? The information in these cases is public record. If you use an Iphone, facts can be downloaded onto your phone within seconds. The article is correct about the area being populated with perverts, in respect to where kids are walking to and from school.10:01 AM
TakingCrap says
I don't know this family. I think the cold may be a contributing factor, but I would believe the main factor is the fear of the registered sex offenders. While the vast majority of sex offenses occur with someone the family trusts (family member, familiar neighbor, teacher, etc.), there is a small percentage of strangers that befriend and then abuse children. There are even a smaller percentage that outright abduct children. Although this is a small percentage, can you really blame the mother for fearing all sex offenders? How is she supposed to know which offenders on the registry are an actual risk to her children and which are not?There is one point that if she's reading this, I'd like her to consider though. There are very few cases that we read about where the offender was previously on the registry...even though these are more likely to make the wire than a first time offense (and we all know how much this paper likes to find articles with the word sex in them). My point is that it's fine to be vigilant in the offenders on the path, but also be weary of anyone taking an interest in your child. Ensure your child understands the boundaries and knows that it is fine to tell you if any of those boundaries have been crossed.
One final thing that I wonder about... why is it OK for her middle schooler to walk past the same offenders homes as the 9 year old? Did I read that correctly? He's just about as vulnerable to grooming as her 9 year old daughter.
09:48 AM
ladydye_5 says
There are many children who walk in the cold, in the rain, in the snow, and in 100*+ weather. There are kids that walk by sex offenders. I agree with truckin....some registered sex offeners are not as "violent" as they make them out. Not sure what the story was made out to do, but stir trouble. I wonder how many other parents are going to be wanting a bus ride for the kids now too.09:11 AM
Kelly says
Why even bring up the part about her being cold unless that's the real reason they complained? Seems like they made it up just so the kid wouldn't have to walk in the cold & snow. Pathetic.07:55 AM
truckin says
Sorry but this sounds more like a easy "public fear" tactic for a little wiggle room on the busing.. My point being: Everyone knows and i will bet 99% of sex offenders are of sex with close to age girlfriends, public urination, drummed up he said she said, etc. How many REAL sex offenders are out of jail? Really. I can not remember any real RAPIST, "pluck children off the street type of sex offenders" even close to our towns. I have a 3rd grader girl, and no clue to how many "registered sex offenders" and don't care. I feel pretty safe in our town as far as true violence. Are there creepy people? sure, but i see them walking around, shopping etc. Heck i might think this mom is creepy by my standards, but i am not going to have to take 36 pills just to go grocery shopping. Little bit over kill if you ask me. As far as "I been sexual abused" most of that comes from therapists and there need to analyze every situation as a "REASON". A teen had early sex with another teen, and found out he/she was used and now it's the WHOLE reason for future failures in life? Stuff like that. Heck a good Physiatrist could probably convince me I couldn't hit that home run at 12 because my kindergarten teacher didn't give me enough stars on my homework. You all, or rational ones know what i am talking about.01:23 PM
arnmcrmn says
You are completely wrong and misinformed and again spew crap on here without the facts. Do yourself a favor and do a little research about the sex offenders in the local area. Many have done HORRIBLE things to young children, rape..etc. You have ZERO clue what people go through for the rest of their life if they were abused or rape. But then again, your post fits your mr internet tough guy attitude.09:52 AM
rejectedmantis says
Wow. Don't know and don't care. I don't suppose with drugs comes other types of crime, huh. If you researched sex offenders in your area, you might be surprised.